First Year Experiences

大学的第一年会带来很多成长和变化，随之而来的往往是成长和变化 growing pains. 了解一些许多大学生在他们的 第一年可以帮助你支持你的学生在这个令人兴奋的(和可怕的)!) time in their life.

• August
  • 对新环境和新活动的兴奋和活力.
  • 对变化、责任和社会交往感到不堪重负.
  • Navigating new freedoms and balancing tasks.
  • 对室友、教授和课程的焦虑.

  How can you help?  倾听、鼓励并认可学生的感受. Refrain from rescuing them.  “拯救”他们或试图“解决”任何出现的情况是非常诱人的，但是 他们有能力，你把他们培养成成功的人. Encourage your student to stay on campus. 

  Questions to ask your student: 你会参加哪些迎熊活动?  What are the people in your classes like?  你喜欢你的新大学课程表吗?

• September
  • Frequent calls and visits home.
  • Integrating into a new set of friends.
  • Homesickness and loneliness.
  • 挑战与新的和不同的人互动.
  • First exams, papers, and homework.

  How can you help?  继续倾听和鼓励你的学生.  Write handwritten notes and/or send care packages. Remind your student about campus resources.  Support the learning 探索大学经历的过程.

  Questions to ask your student: Is college what you thought it would be?  Why/why not?  What's been your favorite/least favorite thing about college so far?  我们的家人和朋友周末计划是什么?

• October
  • 随着学生生活越来越舒适，室友问题也开始出现.
  • 学生们开始质疑:“我能融入博天堂官方吗?”
  • 第一次考试成绩回来了，学生们准备主要的期中考试.
  • 学生们与他们的朋友和伙伴保持着密切的联系.
  • 行为和决策的后果出现了.

  How can you help?  肯定和庆祝你的学生的成功，无论是现在还是过去.  Try not 比较他们的高中和大学成绩，因为他们有很大的不同!  Acknowledge and discuss the increased difficulty of college; brainstorm options that 帮助你的学生完善他们的学习技巧. Have a dialogue with your student about their actions and behaviors.  

  Questions to ask your student: 你和学生成功部的导师约好了吗?  到目前为止，你最喜欢/最不喜欢大学的事情是什么?  What have you done well so far?  Is there anything you plan to do differently?

• November
  • 期中论文和试卷会被退回，让学生对自己的进步有一个很好的了解 in some classes.
  • 室友之间的友谊会加强，或者挑战会变得更加清晰和激烈.
  • 许多考试和论文都要在感恩节假期前交.
  • 对回家过感恩节感到兴奋和/或焦虑.
  • 第一类校园疾病(感冒、流感、链球菌等).) hit; visits to the Health Center increase.

  How can you help?  Listen, be supportive, and encourage. Convey "it's okay to ask for help."  Assist 你的学生在头脑风暴可能解决他们的问题，但不要采取 over. Talk openly about the upcoming visit home.  Anticipate and express optimism about changes your student has experienced. 

  Questions to ask your student: Which of your midterms went well?  Which ones didn't go so well?  What classes did 你和你的指导老师讨论这个春天的课程?  What are your plans for Thanksgiving break?

• December
  • Anxiety increases over finals preparation.
  • 兴奋和/或焦虑回家看朋友和假期 family.
  • 要平衡期末考试周的计划和学习时间.
  • 为离开新的友谊和/或浪漫的关系而悲伤

  How can you help?  在休息时开诚布公地谈谈你对他们的期望.  Support open dialogue 和室友一起为新学期做准备.  Praise connections made at college.  把他们当作他们正在努力成为的成年人来对待，这样他们就可以为自己做更多的事情 in the future. 

  Questions to ask your student: How did your grades turn out?  Are you proud/disappointed?  Do you have ideas of what you might do differently in the spring?  Do you have plans to see friends over the break?

• January
  • 对秋季学期成绩的满意或失望.
  • Homesickness.
  • 对家乡的友谊和浪漫关系感到孤独.
  • 离开家回到学校让我松了口气.

  How can you help?  用语言表达你对他们和他们的过程的信任.  Be patient and excited as your student explores their path through college.  Affirm that college is difficult and celebrate their achievements so far.  Encourage them to learn more about potential majors, jobs, and internship opportunities. 

  Questions to ask your student: How are you enjoying your new classes? 你的新日程安排对你的联系有什么影响 with the friends you made last semester?

• February
  • 酒精和其他药物滥用的潜在增加.
  • 令人兴奋的秋季住房选择开始浮出水面.
  • 可能会出现维护家庭关系的挑战.
  • 情人节可能会带来孤独和孤立.

  How can you help?  鼓励他们利用校园资源，尤其是那些社交活动频繁的学生.  Don't 恐慌-倾听并协助识别支持人员. Refrain from rescuing.  Ask questions. 送一个爱心包裹——尤其是在情人节前后.

  Questions to ask your student: 你还在平衡上课和社交吗?  Where are you thinking about living next year?  Have you applied for on-campus housing yet?

• March
  • 为明年找室友而焦虑.
  • 春假计划的兴奋和/或失望.
  • Midterm exam stress.
  • 对暑期工作和领导机会感到兴奋.

  How can you help?  接受学生的大学经历有高潮也有低谷这一事实.  Affirm 学生良好的决策能力和你对他们的信心.  Be clear about summer expectations.  

  Questions to ask your student: What are your plans for the summer?  Are you coming home?  How did your second round of midterms go?

• April
  • 担心申报或换专业.
  • End of semester pressure.
  • Excitement with the arrival of spring.
  • Registration for fall classes.

  How can you help?  鼓励利用校园资源，特别是就业服务.  Send notes of encouragement and care packages. 不要不停地呼唤关心、建议， or rescuing.  

  Questions to ask your student: How did your academic advising meeting go?  What do you think of the classes you and your advisor discussed for next fall?  What are you doing to prepare to finish this semester strong?

• May
  • Final exam anxiety.
  • Spring semester grades.
  • 对回家过暑假的忧虑和渴望.
  • 平衡悲伤，离开新的友谊和/或浪漫的关系 学校和见到家乡老朋友的兴奋.
  • 认识到大学将如何影响人生决定.

  How can you help?  Dialogue openly about summer expectations. Support their feelings of sadness. Be 意识到你自己的失落感，当学生离开和过渡 your student's return home for the summer.  Accept your student's changes; try not to second guess or challenge. 问问题，真正了解变化/成长; not to correct. 

  Questions to ask your student: How was your finals week?  与期末考试周有什么相同或不同之处 fall semester?What are some of your expectations for summer?